01-17-25

ECCLESIOLOGICAL ETCHINGS
January 17, 2025
Deescalating tension is an art, and I am so envious of people who have the skill of speaking to a moment of anger with words that helps create a pause. It does not mean everyone is happy or at peace, but often unchecked escalation is followed by more escalation. Inflammatory allegations are made, and before long, the original point is lost in a turbulent exchange that has everyone in a defensive stance. In today’s world, we need more individuals who are less adept at fanning the flames of distrust and animosity and more skilled at creating an environment where voices are given a platform to express themselves and committed individuals are willing to seek understanding. Let’s be clear—that does not mean agreement. 

In Mark 2, some of the religious leaders and legal experts ask the disciples, “Why does he (Jesus) eat with sinners and tax collectors?” Jesus is standing within earshot of this question, so it sure appears as if the intent of the question was to cause triangulation and to have the disciples arguing among themselves. Jesus immediately responded, but didn’t spew vitriol or tell his disciples how his accusers were idiots. Instead, he stayed on task and communicated his mission by saying, “Healthy people don’t need a doctor, but sick people do. I didn’t come to call righteous people, but sinners.” Other times, when Jesus was asked a question, he chose to respond with a question. I need to learn how to avoid getting entangled in irrelevant debates that serve as emotional smokescreens to keep from actually addressing the issue at hand. And then from a place of genuine curiosity, to ask good questions that seek to better see the perspective of another.

Where people are hurting and afraid, I look to you, Lord God, for a quiet and content spirit so that I might listen with the intent of understanding. And where anger leads to accusations, I pray for that same quiet and content heart so as not to be drawn into a unhelpful yelling match. Be my guide! Amen.